Thursday, October 28, 2010
♥ Thursday, October 28, 2010
the friendship test. are you game?
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Imagine if you were so alone in some other part of the world, maybe surrounded by new environment, new friends, and when you need someone to talk to, there isn't really anyone available who can listen to you. Or at times of desperation, your friends will just shun you like a contagious virus. Sounds familiar?
It's normally at times like this when you wonder if you have genuine, sincere friends who treat you the way you want to be treated.
Yesterday, I had a long chat with jingxiu on msn and I realized it has been a while since I last spoke to her after she left for Holland to further her studies. Perhaps I have not been in contact with her for months, I was pretty surprised how mature she became, in a span of 3 months?!
Guilt. Yes. Full of it. I began to think of my old pals who are currently overseas - jingxiu, junyan, michelle, valmond. I am guilty of giving people the impression that I am not making an effort to maintain the friendship when he/she tries to keep me as a friend. I gotta admit that I am too caught up with my surroundings, even more so since I have started working, that at certain point of time, without realizing, I have started to take my close friends for granted, which include letting people wait hours for me or I just nonchalantly told them I could not make it because of work, too tired, etc,etc...
Do you do the same to your close pals too?
I am truly grateful for the 2.5 weeks break. During the break, I managed to catch up with quite a bit of people whom I have pretty lost touch with during work, be it on msn, facebook or meet ups. I began to sit back, reflect about life, what I really want to, things I want to achieve before I turn 30 (yes I do have a list!), kinship and friendship. Yes, especially friendship. For me, I am indeed grateful to have close friends who really treasure me as a genuine friend, those who recognize my flaws and still accept me for who I am and those who have been with me at times of difficulties.
Friends - there are many different definitions of friends. There are friends whom you know are really sincere to be friends with you, showing concern, sharing the woes and the joys. There are friends who have been by my side for the longest time, eg Jessine and Chit. I have friends who became much closer to me after we went separate ways, eg Michelle, Jingxiu, Charmane, Liyana, Shaun, Chun Kiat.
Of course, there is always a negative side of 'friends' too. There are those who have entered in your life for a period of time and probably the next time you will see them is on facebook's news feed. There is also those whom you just wanna have fun with, and that's about it and those whom you just talk just for the sake of erm talking.
Yes I have over 500 friends on facebook but if you ask me who my genuine friends are, sad to say I can only list a handful, not even a 10%. Don't get the wrong idea, I am not complaining how pathetic I am. Just that I thought I might have neglected the true friends when I have been blinded by my own surroundings. Perhaps I have placed too much time and effort on people who are not so worthy. Happens pretty often.
Time will definitely tell, whether the person is a friend to keep. FOR LIFE.
The friendship test begins. Are you game for it?
